I'm a mother of 3 teens and still marrie...

Asked by shafiqa saban on 03-04-2023 10:30:57
Question posted in the Family Law category relating to KwaZulu-Natal

I'm a mother of 3 teens and still married to my kids father . My husband has been married before and I've personally seen how he treated his ex wife and his kids from first marriage financially and emotionally.  Which is why I would like to know what are my legal rights in our marriage because he hardly spends a cent on us ,he doesn't give me a single cent  . I'm a housewife because he didn't want me working. What bothers me is that from the time we got married we would have his kids every weekend and every holiday and over the weekends he would give those kids R200 everyday for the entire weekend but our 3 teens he only gives the and allowance of R150 per month and they have to work for it it's not just given to them . I jeed advice about what to do because he paid R3500 maintenance per kid (2 kids) every month and they would get R200 for every day of the weekend ,they would get just what they wanted and they got name brand clothes every months where as my kids only gets once a year and then it's baight at mr price . He complains of spending R2500 for groceries for the months and we are 5 of us living in the house. He doesn't allow me to buy things for our place nor does he give me a single cent but if I just spend a R100 more than the R2500 for food then he would shun and shame me and tear me down to the best of his abilities.  He complain of paying R4900 per on school fees per kid but his other kids he paid R12 000 per month for schooling. I really need some advice as to what actions to take or how to go about my situation please I beg of you.

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