Good day I would like to find out how to proceed with a divorce from my husband.We are married out of Community without the Accreal.We have 3 children, aged 10, 7 and 2We have been together 13 years, but I am finally trying to get out.For years I was Gaslit, cheated on (numerous times), Financially, Emotionally, verbally abused by my husband.To a point where my father in law also physically abused me infront of my kids and threatened to kill me. Mind you my husband stood and watched and only did something when someone came to help me.My husband has also threatened to take my life a few times in our marriage.After finding out about the last infidelity in October, I told him I want a divorce...needless to say he said he will change.  As I have heard the same story for 13 years, I just can't and don't want to take it anymore.He left his father as they were partners in business, because of his father's abuse towards him.They also got in a lot of fist fights infront of the children and people in public places, where guns are pulled out and it gets very abusive.He started a new job this week so there is no payslips as yet, and with his previous job he lived out of the Business Card, also with no payslips. He also threatened before that he will not pay mainatance for the children if I take them away from him, and he can show it based on his bankstatements that he did not get paid, but he bought a brand new Toyota Hilux in September 2024 on his personal name, financed by the bank.I do not want to fight in the divorce, I just want him to pay maintance because financially I will not be able to cover all the costs on my own.I am scared of my husband, with his father as a role model, he gets aggressive outbursts and starts threatening me and our kids.We have a lease agreement on the place we are renting and we are co-tenants on the lease as well.I also want to know that I may be coming up for a promotion at my workplace but it will need me to move to Gauteng.Will I be able to move there?His new Job is in Limpopo where we are staying but his mom and his Head Office is in Gauteng.He will be able to see the children I f I were to move there.I need to get out, but I do not know how to and I do not have the finances to fight over this divorce for years to come as I suspect that he will not sign the papers and will think of any reason for me not to leave him. (Very Narcissistic, just like his father)I need help please because I know nothing about getting divorced and if I need to get a Restraining order for our safety.So I need answered:1. Can I relocate inter-province with my kids?2. What will he be liable to pay for each month? (Children is on his Medical aid, me too but I pay my portion every month)3. What will happen if he does not pay?4. How long will it take? Depending on if he contests or not.5. Do I need to get a restraining order?6. Can he take my kids away from me?  I know he will try to fight it but he is not in a position to look after the kids.He has a history of Alcohol abuse, drug abuse (drug abuse I do not have proof but he admitted infront of family friends)Thank you