Asked by the Customer on 18-03-2015 11:50:57
Question posted in the Divorce Law category relating to Eastern Cape

I have had a lengthy divorce process and am currently being assisted by Legal Aid in my case. I have 3 children aged 4 and 5 years old (2 of them being 4 years old). My ex has largely been the reason why the divorce is taking so long as he has attempted every avenue to not have to give any details related to him, i.e.: addresses, contact numbers, showing up to appointments and the likes. We have had our meetings with Family Advocate and they have issue their report. My ex has not been forthcoming with assistance in the children's care and has little if no contact with the children by his own choice. I did try to 'enforce' contact about a year ago but this stopped up until about 2 months ago. I found that the children were getting emotionally hurt by the things he would say to them over the phone. I asked him to stop saying bad things but he didn't stop so I decided to withhold contact with him - I have very happy children who don't ask me a single day about their father. When they do I answer in truth and never bad wording. My question is: I have lodged visitational and contact rights in my case - If I allow this to go through now am I able to request for no rights thereafter? I have had to put in an interim maintenance claim in my case in order to speed up the divorce process but have a current maintenance case open with the maintenance court itself, this is also 3 years running. Would I be able to include 'no rights' in this case?